Heath Hollensbe

This is the official website of Heath Hollensbe. Heath is a Seattle based follower of Jesus who is learning to love his neighbor as much as he loves himself. And here's where he blogs about it.  

Reconciliation: The Way The World Is Supposed To Be

If you enter your place of worship and, about to make an offering, you suddenly remember a grudge a friend has against you, abandon your offering, leave immediately, go to this friend and make things right. Then and only then, come back and work things out with God.
— Matthew 5:24

If I were to ask 10 of my closest friends to name the top 10 character traits that they see in me, I am fairly certain that the word "gracious" would not appear in any of their lists. I know this is an issue. I'm getting better. Definitely growing in this area. 

In December, in typical Heath Hollensbe fashion,  I commented a few sentences on a Facebook post that hurt some friendships. My words were not grace-filled. They were harsh. And selfish. In fact, so bad that I lost a few really valuable friendships over it. It sucked. Still does. 

A week or two after this post, we sat down, had a conversation and tried to work things out and get to the heart of the matter. That conversation went okay, and we all thought that the air was cleared. 3 months later, it is apparent that is not the case. I was de-followed on Instagram, asked to move out of a business place, and even released from a company that I started with these guys. Losing friends sucks. A Lot. Why? Because It's not the way that things were supposed to be. 

This verse from Matthew 5 shows how important reconciliation is to God. We're told to "leave the place of worship immediately, go to that friend and make things right"… Whoa!

As I read that text this week, I felt the Holy Spirit tell me that he wanted to reveal to me people that I needed to be reconciled with. So, I decided to take a few hours of solitude and waited for the those people to be brought to my attention. Some of the friends I spoke of earlier immediately came to mind. So, I reached out. One of the responses back was not what I wanted to hear… There was not a desire to get together and chat and try to fix things. Damn. I did not see that coming. 

I was genuinely heartbroken because I didn't know what to do next. So I got on my phone and looked up reconciliation, and here is the definition:

the act of causing two people or groups to become friendly again after an argument or disagreement
— Merriam Webster Dictionary

Reconciliation cannot happen unless two parties are willing and able to pursue it together. Reconciliation is never a one way street. Sometimes, when both parties are not willing and able to reconcile, it can't happen. Tragic. 

Reconciliation should be one of the main things that sets followers of Jesus apart from those who do not. While there is hurt and sin in this screwed up world, Christians should be quick to reconcile. It mirrors the diligence that Christ has in pursuing His bride. It reflects the great hope that we have of Christ coming and making all things new. Hebrews references that peace among God's people actually has a position of revealing God. Amazing!

Work at getting along with each other and with God. Otherwise you’ll never get so much as a glimpse of God
— Hebrews 12:14

So as I try to press these truths into my own heart, and perhaps share a little bit of what I am currently going through (in hopes that it helps you), I want to be a source of encouragement. Let's be gentle with one another. Filled with grace. Sensitive to one another. Quick to forgive. Thorough to forgive. Because as we grow in this, we become more like Jesus. 

Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.
— Ephesians 4:32